Facing Fear & Finding Community

Hola chingona!

Last weekend, I did something that scared me. I faced my fear of driving and made it to my first event in over a year. This was a big deal for me because, for the past year, I wanted to hide. I was going through so much, and I felt like I was in the worst place of my life. I thought traveling would bring me happiness, but it didn’t. I had to really take time to figure out what I wanted, who I was, and where I was going.

Part of me was heartbroken, knowing I had another failed relationship. I had lowered my standards, put up with more than I should have, and lost a lot of confidence in myself. But now I see that everything I went through was meant to teach me something. I am stronger for it, and for the first time in a long time, I finally feel like myself again.

That is why I share my story because I don’t want anyone to feel like they have to suffer in silence like I did.

Now about this past weekend. I used to say I had a fear of driving. Had because I no longer claim that for myself. This is something I have learned through manifesting. If you want to become a more confident version of yourself you have to start acting like that person now. I told myself I am someone who can drive anywhere and I followed through.

If you have ever had driving anxiety you know it can hold you back from truly living. My mom still only drives locally, and most of my aunts don’t even own a car. I don’t know if that is learned behavior or something deeper, but I always told myself I didn’t want to be that dependent, yet somehow I became exactly that.

I always let my partners drive. One of them even hated my driving, called me a grandma, and would make me feel so bad about it. Looking back maybe it was all connected. My fear my codependent relationships my need to play small. Then once I started working from home I barely left the house it only got worse.

There were so many factors that contributed to my anxiety. Stress, toxic relationships, too much caffeine, a bad diet, and not taking care of myself. And when it came to LA forget it. That city always scared me. Now I see it was probably a metaphor for my fear of success, another limiting belief I had to let go of.

But last weekend I did it. Was I scared? Absolutely. But I showed up anyway. And what I have learned is this: stop feeding your fears. The more you tell yourself a story, the more you believe it. And the more you isolate yourself, the easier it is to believe that you aren’t worthy.

Being surrounded by other women who inspire me was exactly what I needed. This year, I am making it a priority to say yes to more in-person events to connect and to immerse myself in community. After taking time away to focus on myself, I didn’t realize how much I had been craving real conversations, shared experiences, and spaces that remind me of my purpose.

This past weekend, I was honored to be part of a live recording of the Heal and Manifest podcast by @cynthiafloreslmft at Self Love Revolución, where we had deep conversations about self-love growth and the lessons that continue to shape us. It reminded me that no matter how much happens online, nothing replaces the energy of real human connection.

I am excited for more moments like this, more spaces of empowerment, and more opportunities to pour into and be poured into.

This is it if you have been waiting for a sign to enter the community. If you are looking for an event in San Diego, join me for ✨ Women’s Day: The Power of Storytelling ✨ I will share my story and talk about rejection.

Join us for an afternoon of inspiration, connection, and resilience as we celebrate the power of storytelling 💫 And guess what? The tickets are free!

📅 Date Saturday, March 8th 2025
⏰ Time: 2:00 PM to 5:30 PM
📍 Location National City (Address sent upon sign up)
🎟️ Tickets FREE (Suggested donation $10 to $30 collected at the event)

This event is more than just stories. It is about amplifying voices, honoring resilience, and building community. Connect with women who have turned challenges into strength and leave feeling empowered to share your journey 💜

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If you made it to the bottom, thank you from the bottom of my heart for staying.

Abrazos,

💛 Viridiana